May 8, 2012

The Same Sex Marriage Debate

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Today North Carolina voters go to the polls. One item on the ballot is a constitutional amendment that defines marriage as between a man and a woman. It is hard to believe we are debating this issue in America.

A few days ago Vice President Biden said he was absolutely comfortable with same sex marriage. The next day Secretary of Education Arne Duncan endorsed marriage equality. Their boss, President Obama, has said while he opposes same sex marriage his view is evolving. This is a hotly debated topic in our nation.

So what are we to think? Many wonder what the problem is with allowing people of the same sex to marry. What will it hurt? This is a slippery slope. If we allow marriage between same sex individuals what keeps the definition from including three or more? Or what of wedding between siblings? Or why not marriage across species like a man and a goat? Many say that is foolish talk. We would never allow such. Not many years ago we said that of same sex marriage.

In reality same sex marriage is not marriage at all. Biblical and natural law tells us that marriage is a two-in-one-flesh communion of persons. This communion is consummated by sexual acts that are reproductive. Only a man and a woman can be capable of human procreation. This is true even if the couple is incapable of having children due to infertility.

Romans 1:24-27 speaks of the same sex act as being unnatural. You see, same sex marriage is not marriage at all. Marriage is a basic building block of society and reproduction is a large part of that. Same sex partners are physically incapable of marriage. Only male and female can become one flesh.

Praying today for North Carolina voters to do the right thing.


  1. Dr. Traylor,
    Thank you for your blog today. I was once a member of Olive Baptist Church, I now reside in North Carolina with my family. We all have voted FOR traditional marriage today and have been actively involved in the campaign for marriage. Through this proposed amendment we have seen many churches that have set silent on this issue as to “not offend”. How saddened we have become to see that these churches would rather offend their Holy God than the people that sit in their pews. We have been even more saddened to see the number of churches that endorse same sex marriage. Thank you for your prayers and thoughts today. I am overjoyed to see Olive Baptist having no argument on this issue, it rests on the Word of God. Thank you for leading your congregation in the whole counsel of the Bible!

    Tabatha Woods

  2. “Praying today for North Carolina voters to do the right thing.” Thank you, Pastor Ted, for your prayer. We did it! But it was not without the power of God… so “thank you” to all followers of Christ who across this nation and some even around the world who prayed for God’s marriage plan to be declared on the secular front here in NC. Our church serves as a voting location, although we have debated the value of that, where more than double the voters cast a vote this time over the last voting opportunity. The doors were closed at 7:30 PM. At that time, the line of voters was out the fellowship hall door, down the hallway, and circled through the auditorium. It was 9:30 PM before the voting ended. Our people were praying for those voters who were in the building to vote who may not ever choose to re-enter the building or any other church. We distributed Gospel tracts to voters who would take one and refreshments as well. Although it was a voting occasion, we did what we could to share the love of Christ with voters throughout the day. Pray that a few seeds were planted with the Gospel. God’s people all across NC prayed and worked over this amendment, and truth was ultimately proclaimed. God does love all people. So much, in fact, that Christ willingly suffered to bring us freedom from the bondage of our sin. May we as God’s people more boldly stand on the loving truths of His Word and repent of our own continuing battle with willful sin so that the Creator will bring healing to our land.

  3. When you read the President’s remarks below you’ll realize that as the President of all citizens of the U.S., he feels that he must consider the best for all citizens without applying any religious views.

    “I’ve always believed that gay and lesbian Americans should be treated fairly and equally. I was reluctant to use the term marriage because of the very powerful traditions it evokes. And I thought civil union laws that conferred legal rights upon gay and lesbian couples were a solution.

    But over the course of several years I’ve talked to friends and family about this. I’ve thought about members of my staff in long-term, committed, same-sex relationships who are raising kids together. Through our efforts to end the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy, I’ve gotten to know some of the gay and lesbian troops who are serving our country with honor and distinction.

    What I’ve come to realize is that for loving, same-sex couples, the denial of marriage equality means that, in their eyes and the eyes of their children, they are still considered less than full citizens.

    Even at my own dinner table, when I look at Sasha and Malia, who have friends whose parents are same-sex couples, I know it wouldn’t dawn on them that their friends’ parents should be treated differently.

    So I decided it was time to affirm my personal belief that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry.

    I respect the beliefs of others, and the right of religious institutions to act in accordance with their own doctrines. But I believe that in the eyes of the law, all Americans should be treated equally. And where states enact same-sex marriage, no federal act should invalidate them.”

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